Emotional Intelligence is a type of intelligence! that involves the ability to process emotional information. And use it in reasoning and other cognitive activities. The fact that Emotional Intelligence links to some way our brains functions neurologically. A lot of it we can learn through our everyday experiences.

Which means it’s possible to develop our Emotional Intelligence skills. In that sense, it’s you who decides your Emotional Intelligence. Practice the following to develop your Emotional Intelligence skills. These are most effective when we practice regularly.

1.Work on your self-awareness

Start by taking a little time out to think about our reactions to daily events. A few quiet moments at the end of the day are perfect for reflecting on what happened to us and how we felt. One should not stop here, it’s important to take this reflection a little further. Spend some time considering our own strengths, triggers, values, and opportunities. That we see to develop further.

2.Reframe your perceptions of self-management

Conflicts with others can often be a problem that relates to our frame of reference. By reframing conflict with a co-worker. Take it as an opportunity to build better teamwork with that person. We can find the motivation to start the conversation. Rather than avoiding the conflict as unworkable. During a difficult conversation, we can reframe the way we see the other person. Not as an enemy, but rather a potential new ally.

3.Become aware of your emotional triggers

Learn to manage our own emotions is to identify the triggers that actually set them off in the first place. We can try to isolate, foresee, and control the aspects of our interactions with others that set us off.

A common example is most people’s tendency to become offended. By others’ body language, their tone of voice, and so forth during arguments. The opposite is considering what their intended message might actually be. It could be they are trying to help us.

The motivation for identifying our triggers is to be able to control our maladaptive emotional responses to them. Like, we know that someone’s tendency to speak frankly tends to set us off. For example, we can adapt our behavior according to the situation when we interact with them. By being less defensive and aggressive if an interaction is unavoidable.

4.Recognize and celebrate your positive emotions

It’s as simple as taking the time out to do things that make you experience positive emotions. The only catch is that it’s not about taking a tropical vacation each weekend. It’s more about intentionally engaging in natural rewarding activities. Like being kind to all, recalling past happy memories, and expressing our gratitude when we interact with others.

5.Listening to others

Sometimes things do get a little hectic during the brainstorming process. Everyone struggles to get their opinion heard, thinking they have the best idea. Quite often, this leads to a lot of raised voices.  But when we can be calm and suggest that people listen in a quiet manner to one another when they are given the floor. This demonstrates strong Emotional Intelligence. It’s both recognition and effective handling of the team’s emotions at play. When everyone starts to listen to one another. It’s much simpler to reach a constructive decision together.

It’s based on these ideas that we can experience more positive emotions. Which puts us in a better and more resilient position, when negative things do occur. We’re better equipped in this respect by taking conscious steps to celebrate the things. This evokes positive feelings in ourselves.

Thank you, for taking out time to read.

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Author:
Hitesh Mohan
(Counseling Psychologist)